We want our guys to know what they want and how to get it. For example, I met and went on a date with a guy who was way too enthusiastic about texting. Some women just date these guys for the fun of it. Nice guys just need to be a little more sure of themselves and what they want and girls would flock to them. And we eat decadent food in decadent restuarants. He doesn't supplicate and he won't put you on a pedestal for something that you didn't even earn being young and attractive.
Bro, I am one of the skinniest guys in town. There is nothing cool about a girl being treated wrong. It's the douchebag that's not actually a douchebag. It made dealing with all the previous dating crap worth it to find him. Yes, this guy is most likely very confident, and I've learned that girls love that. I agree that women get attracted to bad boys because of inexperience and immaturity, myself included have been there.
The difference between him and the other men in our lives just seem to be inexistent, yet we either cannot or will not say no to this particular guy. If you are afraid to speak to me, on a caveman level, I automatically think you suck at life. I know I'm very lucky I found a good one. And funnily enough the majority of my friends are the same. That's why sometimes it seems like jerks get girls. Most girls have experienced this one way or the other.
If you don't show confidence you will never get anywhere. Hey I don't care if girls fall for the douchebags, in the end they just make us nice guys look that much better -- Nice Guy 3 I can't be a douchebag. Timid and mean people are the worst. We go for guys who sweep us off our feet. Yes you miss out on all the sweet stuff with Douchebags but most girls would rather know where they stand then deal with the hot and cold of a nice guy. No one wants to constantly have to stroke someone's ego to keep them functional.
No self-respecting guy in his right mind is going to support a stuck-up thug chaser and her bastard kids. Otherwise rational men have destroyed their marriages and careers chasing after beautiful women despite finding an average woman and settling down makes sense. One way we learned things as a kid is through the media. An Updated Review of Evidence to Discourage Douching. But just because they make someone like them doesnt mean it will actually work long term.
. Women want their men to be go-getters. Girls grow up after a while, and realise that they'd rather have a long term relationship with a nice guy. Looks are typically the first thing to attract you to a person. I'm sure plenty of average women have notice that men will practically bend over backwards to help a beautiful woman even though he knows she'll won't have sex with him but the thought that he can get a few points in her favor spurs him on.
I have had plenty of girlfriends, and honestly quite a few way out of my league. But back to the desperation thing, one thing I learned is you need to live your life first, a girlfriend is a cherry on the cake not the whole cake. For example, douchebags are usually very confident in themselves because they lack the self-awareness to realize what douches they are. Not the bad boy himself, but his inability to commit. There's something Dan Savage said once--basically if you want to fuck a certain type of person, become the type that person wants to fuck. I felt compelled to write to you after I read your post. But let's say someone calls you an asshole, then you're gonna stop in your tracks and your full attention is gonna be on the person who called you an asshole.
This means just someone with confidence, someone who won't take no for an answer. I just froze my heart and basically told everyone to go fuck themselves and only after that do they think I'm atractive. Even good guys exhibit this quality. When we are attracted to people, we miss the red flags or the signs that they are not really into us. And coming from the same boat we know those are the worst ones.
Excess, in and of itself, was once a wise strategy, simply to have extra resources for times of difficulty and scarcity. It had its ups and downs and truthful story telling. It took me a while, being a nice guy, to get where I am, and now Ive been in this relationship so long I dont remember what its like to even try to not be a nice guy--Nice Guy 1 Douchebags have the 99 theory. The problem most sweet, nice guys have is that they are overly preoccupied with pleasing women. I agree that it was a very smart comment, despite the lack of proper paragraphing.